I've been thinking, I know plenty of females who have been "with" their guy for three years & sometimes more. They have been their rock, their "ride or die", they have been ran through the mud & more. These females have even made alterations in their own life, to accommodate him &/or the relationship. I have never been with a guy for more than three consecutive years, simply because I either get tired of them or they end up doing something stupid. BUT trust me when I say that if I was, I am sure I would not be in the predicament that these "ride or die" chicks are in.
Now I'm far from bashing a female that has been with her guy for over three years, but what I am bashing is the situations that that female may be in. First, lets be clear, you have been with him off & on, 3, 4, or even 5 years, since high school maybe, good & bad issues, cheating, fighting etc. & you make accommodations for him & the relationship simply because you....love him?Remember, I said I'm not bashing. Love is all fine & dandy, but the point I am trying to make is, DONT DO SO MUCH FOR SOMEONE THAT IS GIVING YOU SO LITTLE.
I'm sorry, but if I have been with someone for so long, the aspects of our relationships would have changed from when we first met. I would have to see a change in him & in our relationship. I am still young, so I am not going to say after 3 years he should be proposing, no. However, what I am saying is, if you think things are going in a big circle with yall now, what will happen when another 3+ years pass by, when you are actually ready to get married & have kids? If after 3-4 years nothing really has yet to change, why do you think things will in another 3-4 years? If its not working, move the f*ck on!
So now my question is "How Long is Too Long?" if you are reading needing an answer, I can't tell you. I'm not in your relationship, so I don't know what you all have been through or how you feel, but what I can tell you is, if after you leave my blog, sit back & really think about your relationship, no sugar coat involved & think about the good & the bad, think about what you have done, sacrifices you have made, sacrifices he has made, has anything changed from when you first met him? Has he became a better person, mentally? Does he respect the things you ask of him? Is he still doing things that he was doing when he met you? Are yall still having to deal with issues that yall might have dealt with in the past? These questions should help you see where your own mind is at about yall relationship.
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"The purpose of a relationship is to get married"
START THE VIDEO AT 18:35!
