Briefly I will go through My top reasons why guys are still cheating...
Before we continue let me explain my definition of Cheating. Cheating is any and every thing that can possibly offend me. Doing anything that the other person knows I do not approve of. I do not care if you texted a female something inappropriate or if you f*cked a female, what is wrong is wrong. At the end of the day, its something that I made clear that I did not want you to do, & when you agreed to this relationship, you agreed to my standards & rules. Point Blank.
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- Because they can- guys will do whatever you allow them to, if you let them get away with cheating once, they will do it again, if they hit you & you go back with them, more than likely they will do it again. I don't know how clear I can make that.
- They want or need something new- Its not always because you are not good enough or they don't find you attractive anymore, sometimes it is just that rush that men need to have fulfilled every now & then. Men are weird & they get a kick out of having "
text buddies" & certain "friends". It usually has nothing to do with you, they "love" you & "care" about you, however, its just that thrill they get when they are around someone new. Remember how in high school you broke up with a guy & then some other guy comes along, & yall are texting & talking all the time & it is all fun & games because its just that thrill of having something new, its the same situation. But what happens after that "fun & game" stage is over & yall decide to make it a relationship? Sh*t gets real, things change. You may start to argue more or get aggravated with the person that was just something that was "new, fun & exciting". That is why those guys keep that main lady and have the "texting buddies" or whatever on the side to continue to have that relationship but also continue to feed that thrill they have.
- A title doesn't mean sh*t sometimes- Babygirl, don't think twice that just because he gave you that "girlfriend" or "wifey" title that he won't cheat on you. It doesn't matter how many years yall have been together or if yall have kids, a guy will be a guy. Sometimes guys cheat on their girlfriends just to do it. A lot of females become blind & start not to realize what their guy is really doing behind closed doors.
- "I could have me a good girl but still be addicted to them hood-rats"- Kanye said it all in a nutsell in his song "Runaway" Some guys know that they have a good girl but at the same time they want to f*ck off, especially if they are young in a relationship. Its not that they don't have those feelings for that girlfriend, however, they still want to live that life, but don't want to lose that good girl that has had their back for years.
- Who knows- Some guys just do it because they want to. Some guys don't even have a reason why, they just do.
These reasons are not in any particular order. I don't judge those who are cheating or have cheated, some of these bullet points I can relate to so well because I have done them, not proud, but it is what it is. The main point for the ladies is: "Learn from your mistakes, an ex is an ex for a reason" & to the guys: "Don't get too caught up because while you think everything is going so smooth the one you really care about can be walking out the door."
& as a sidenote, not one time did I refer to the males in this post as "men", I referred to them as "guys". A real man understands a female's pain, realizes her worth & wants to make sure that it is nothing less than a smile on her face at all times, a real man won't cheat. That's my opinion, take it or leave it. </3
